We are to grow up...in Christ.  We are not called to just be a believer, but as a disciple. As people we are to grow up from children to adults.  So to, we are to grow up. Hebrews 10:24-25 Meeting together is a very important part of God's plan. In marriage, you are to not be individuals but a family.  1 John 4:20 This love is not romantic, or responding but a sacrificial love.   Families love each other where those outside of the family, won't.   Family should be a safe place to test, try and experience.  Growing up requires all processes of God in our life.  It takes commitment.   It takes relationship.  It takes habits. 1 Thessalonians 1:8 The people didn't try to get rid of stuff in their lives; they simply responded to what God wanted for them. To mature in Christ, we are to grow up. Luke 14:27   Grow up; carry your load. Disciples are known by what they are committed to.   Look at what people do; not say.  Peoples values come out in their lives